I decided to post about this topic as it seems to be such a hit with viewers on my youtube channel. I am overwhelmed with the interest so I believe it deserves a little more attention. My book Spirit and Belief discusses visit dreams with those who have passed and I will include an excerpt but first a little more on the subject. They are probably more common than we might know, however not many people choose to discuss or publicize them. Why? Many reasons prevent others from sharing and it’s not a subject you just bring up out of the blue with anyone. The situation needs to present itself in a way that relates to someone possibly just passing or a conversation about dreams in general. I have had vivid dreams my entire life and several involved people who did pass. Sometimes, it would become a joke with me saying: “Guess who I just had a dream about?” Many people do this but most of those dreams just involve the person being present or around but not really a spirit visit for sure. Our minds simply just want us to remember the person in a happy way (hopefully) or provide some reassurance to us after they pass.

It really does depend on our own belief system and not merely because we feel justified in receiving one. Humility works and believe me when I know first hand! I’ll explain kind of like being at an event with a professional medium. For most, they want to connect in some way if they can with a loved one who has passed. Not many get chosen to participate but those that do need to have a very open mind with little expectations. Of course we all might be thinking of a certain person but you never know who if anyone will step forward to communicate. The messages also might not be what you had intended or maybe you don’t understand it at all. I read a story about a woman who so desperately wanted her deceased mother to come thru in a large group reading but she became way too frustrated and felt like she deserved this for various reasons like— she took care of her mother, she was the youngest/ favorite, (yikes!) she lived with her mother, she did everything for her, and so on. This woman said she had done so much on her own to try and possibly connect with her mother in spirit but nothing had worked so she attended a medium event. It was explained to her how her expectations and sense of urgency has been blocking any kind of connection to her mother at all. We do tend to become like children with little patience and this woman had waited long enough or at least in her mind. It is all in your attitude of becoming humble and open-minded and for some, this is always a struggle. A spirit visit dream is actually very similar.

You can ask for guidance and should every day but then we forget to let it go…. No obsessing or thinking about it all the time. Go about your everyday life and just wait to see what happens. This is how the Universe works for every single one of us. I have totally experienced this with regards to dreams and they should be honored but sometimes it isn’t with the right people who truly respect and understand your journey. I stopped always sharing with others since instead of the comments I wanted to hear, (ugh—those expectations again!) I got: “I’ve never had a dream about fill in the blank, why doesn’t He/She appear to me?”  I know how frustrating this can be but even though some might not have what others have, we should choose our words wisely. This is very personal and just the fact that it is shared should be respected. Not everyone gets things the same way including visit dreams so here are some pointers from my book:

•      Most are when the bulk of your grief has passed and you are able to receive a message without much emotion.
•      Look for symbolism or metaphors that can connect something to your life and theirs. Remember not to take anything too serious or logical, humor counts!
•      Most happened when I was about to wake up in the morning and not feeling  jolted in the middle of the night.
•      There will be some direct contact with you like a smile, hug, touch, or even words. They might make eye contact with you too.
•      You are involved in the dream and not just a casual observer. Look for ways you are interacting with them. There might be others around but sense a moment when it is possibly just the two of you.
•      It is the feeling you experience afterwards that matters most. You might not be able to fully explain why you feel different but you just do.

These are some common ideas to keep in mind for you to discern a spirit dream from just a regular one.  Also remember not all dreams will involve a spirit glowing or looking white, mine certainly didn’t. This did not make me doubt the dream at all. They come in a way that you will remember and recognize so pay attention to details if you can. I would recommend also to write anything down as I did since this was a great tool to learn from. With my memory, I never forget any and even those that happened so very long ago. You won’t either if it resonated in such a way that you truly connected or got the message. Some of it might not make sense like the setting or what you or them are wearing, others in the dream, and on and on. Just keep thinking of all the connectors and hopefully it will come together for you in some way.

If you are wondering how to receive a dream besides just believing please continue to have that open mind. Try meditation or prayer but without sounding desperate or needy. Trust is also a big key and not to question even though our minds might want us to. Find some time and space in your day for quiet and to be alone. Really listen without always asking or reciting. Try nature walks, calming music, water elements like a bath or something outside. Breathe and close your eyes with a good intention and pure heart. Be consistent and patient everyday. I do believe also the Universe does know people that possibly intuitively have this belief system already inside them but anyone can practice if you wish to gain insight.

I hope I have explained somewhat the links to spirit visit dreams and that this post will help you to discover your journey with the Universe. Don’t dismiss those dreams just because they are silly or don’t mean anything. They DO if you can connect the dots. Keep following your intuition which will lead your heart and mind in the right direction.

~~~ Next week, I will again be including an excerpt from my book about the Signs of a Spiritual Awakening and how to tell if you have had or are experiencing one right now! Be sure to check out my book if interested and sign up to receive this blog every week on how to develop your own spiritual connection!! Follow your intuition everyday!!